Years Ago

R is for Relate

It’s difficult to be miserable about my own problems when I am able to wholeheartedly notice, connect with, be concerned about, feel compassion for, identify with, relate to…someone else. Note to self: Pay loving attention to the person you’re with.

O is for Order

This series is an alphabetical exploration of 26 options for living well, despite everything. It answers the question–How can we live well, despite problems?  By getting our lives in order!  Disorder is a muddle. Havoc. A confusing, chaotic mess. A shambles. High Anxiety! Lawlessness! Which is to say, disorder is incompatible with living well. But order naturally deteriorates. The 2nd …

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West's Bakery in Hope Valley, Rhode Island is the Best

I’m talking about West’s Bakery in the village of Hope Valley in the town of Hopkington in the county of Washington in the state of Rhode Island, which is a confusing place when it comes to place names. (click here to read my honest-reviews policy). West’s Bakery is where we recently had one of the best breakfasts we’ve ever …

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N is for NO!

This series is an alphabetical exploration of 26 options for living well, despite everything. It answers the question–How can a we live well, despite problems? By Saying No!  I was taught to be nice, to say okay, fine, yes — while smiling politely. Yet, while saying “NO!” may strike us as not nice, saying yes too often leads to …

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A Fall Foliage Tour Day in Connecticut's Quiet Corner

Me? Fall Foliage is my favorite season, and I’m also attracted to reading nooks, sheltered coves, tucked-away hideouts and serene places like “Connecticut’s Quiet Corner.” So this morning when the weather promised to be fair and the day spread out before us with no commitments, we set ourselves free to explore. No agenda, no itinerary, no hurry. …

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Enough books to say Good Night

M is for Moderation

This series is an alphabetical exploration of 26 options for living well, despite everything. It answers the question–How can a we live with problems?  Sure, moderation is wise. But… Isn’t moderation a church-lady, finger-pointing, tsk-tsking spoiler of fun? In order to live well with chronic pain, I’ve had to learn to pace myself, to put on the …

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Let it go; forgive and give life.

L is for Let-it-go

  This is part of a series of an alphabet of help for living well, despite everything: L is for Let-it-go! I’ve been stepped on. Bruised. Trounced. Crushed. What’s my initial, instinctive, human response? I’m shocked– how could they?  I’m in attack mode– those nasty blankety-blanks, I’m gonna show them why they are so wrong. I relive what they did to me. I …

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